Mary Todd Lincoln was an American original
This Illinois Bicentennial year marks the 200th anniversary of the birthday of Mary Todd Lincoln, widow of President Abraham Lincoln, on Dec. 13, 2018.
As a young girl born into a socially prominent Kentucky family in 1818, Mary Todd had been privileged to sit at the family dinner table with leading politicians such as the honored statesmen Henry Clay. Steeped in politics at an early age, she became an astute strategist in the contemporary political arena and acted as a behind-the-scenes adviser to her husband for most of their 23 years of married life.
Abraham Lincoln often read his speeches to her and had immense trust in her judgment. Mrs. Lincoln not only supported but had an incalculable influence on her husband. Historians generally agree that she fueled his career, acted as his sounding board and played a central advisory role in his political life.
Refined and well-educated, Mary Todd Lincoln was poised for success as a first lady. Yet, few women in American history are as deliberated. For years, authors and scholars have claimed that Mary Todd Lincoln was insane. Various historians through the decades have formatted an unreasonably negative interpretation.
Biographer Jean Baker believes that Mary has gotten an “utterly raw deal.”
Recent perspectives appear to be more fair-minded. Distinguished Lincoln scholars Harold Holzer and Ron C. White have admire Mary. In context of Mary’s world, they say her footprint leaves a worthy impression.
At a Springfield cotillion in 1839 Mary Todd met Abraham Lincoln. She was immediately intrigued, according to Mary’s niece, Katherine Helm. In 1842 Todd married the man with whom she fell in love. It was a risk, against her family’s wishes, and not the choice a woman of her position would typically have made.
She literally moved from a life of means to an 8-by-14-foot room at the Globe Tavern boardinghouse in Springfield, filled only with promise. Her leap of faith, says historian Catherine Clinton, was in becoming Mrs. Abraham Lincoln. And her legacy is that of the wife of President Lincoln.
Elizabeth Keckley, Mary Lincoln’s black White House seamstress and confidante, acknowledged Mary was “peculiarly constituted.” She had a nervous temperament and could be difficult. She was also well-educated, fluent in French, ambitious and outspoken with a keen wit. But her talents could not flourish while confined to gender boundaries of the 19th century, an age far from comprehending various emotional constitutions or space and platforms for women who spoke their minds outside the scene of parlor politics. Under scrutiny personally, the Lincolns had to navigate a hostile environment in addition to the turbulence of war. Old-hand politicians scorned the Lincolns as “Westerners” and Abraham Lincoln was seen by the Washington upper crust as the “backwoods President.”
Mary Lincoln also stepped into the enmity of the social world of secessionist ladies who snubbed her as a coarse Yankee, an image she set out to counter.
The 31 room Executive Mansion, severely deteriorated because of negligence, became Mary Lincoln’s first undertaking. She took on the refurbishing of the “People’s House,” to see it emerge as a respected symbol of national unity. The lavish makeover was completed in a few months with splendid galas taking place. The political soirees, compounded by her Confederate Todd relatives visiting the White House,
were fodder for constant gossip. As the first president’s wife in the telegraph era, her every move was scrutinized paparazzi style by what she called the “vampyre press.”
Mary Lincoln balanced her social role with her concern for the welfare of the president. She worked to divert the president’s anxiety by making time for carriage rides and inviting his Illinois friends to breakfast to see that her husband socialized. Her intellectual and moral support helped Lincoln cope with the burdens of war and his predisposition to melancholy. Biographer Catherine Clinton observed that Mary Lincoln gave her husband unconditional love. Mary embraced her role as the mother of four boys, and she grieved when three of her sons were buried. A maternal instinct was the essence of her being. Eleven-year-old Willie, their second deceased son, died at the White House in February 1862. In addition, several of her half brothers were killed during the war. Tragic losses, beginning with the death of her mother when Mary was just 7 years old, mark her history.
Active and dedicated, Mary spent countless hours in Washington hospitals. She kept all of this private, away from the public eye. She housed soldiers in the East Room, hosted the first blacks as guests, supported the Contraband Relief Society to help former slaves in Washington, attended congressional debates and sponsored Thursday evening receptions and entertainment gatherings. Her crisp intelligence, avid interest in public affairs, engaging personality and extensive participation in the social politics of the White House brought a new version of a president’s wife. In spring 1864, Quincy citizens read in the Whig & Republican that Mary Lincoln had become an honorary member of the Sisters of the Good Samaritan, one of two local Civil War support groups. There is no indication that Mary Lincoln ever visited Quincy, but she had many acquaintances locally and was a longtime friend of Eliza Browning, a leading member of the support group and the wife of U.S. Sen. Orville H. Browning.
In 1865 at age 47, Mary Lincoln was cast into widowhood when her husband was assassinated. The president and Mary were holding hands when the end came at Ford’s Theatre in Washington. The shocked and shattered Mary Lincoln lived another 17 years.
As the president’s wife, Mary brought a new voice and a new role to the Capital City. There’s no question that the president loved her dearly. Lincoln once told a reporter that as a poor nobody when they met, he fell in love with her and had never fallen out.
Iris Nelson is retired from her position as reference librarian and archivist at Quincy Public Library. She serves on boards for civic and historical organizations and has written articles for historical journals.





