Mary Todd Lincoln: 'Who is that man?'

In the spring of 1864, Quincy citizens read in the Whig & Republican that Mrs. Mary Lincoln, wife of President Abraham Lincoln, had become an honorary member of the Sisters of the Good Samaritan, one of the two local Civil War support groups. Mrs. Lincoln was acquainted with their accomplishments, commenting in correspondence that she rejoiced in the work the women had done.
This recognition is significant in placing Mary's regard for the women's work and her connections to Quincy friends. There is no indication that Mary ever visited Quincy, but she had many acquaintances locally and was a long-time friend of Eliza Browning, a leading member of the organization and the wife of Sen. Orville H. Browning. Numerous local friends of the Lincolns traveled to Washington during the Lincoln presidency as noted in Orville Browning's diary.
Mary Lincoln's complex and intriguing life has been chronicled from starkly diverse viewpoints. Early accounts from men such as William Herndon, Lincoln's law partner, and various historians through the decades have formatted a negative interpretation maligning Mary. Biographer Jean Baker believes that Mary has gotten an "utterly raw deal." Recent perspectives appear to be more fair-minded. In anticipation of one day writing this article I had the opportunity to interview two distinguished Lincoln scholars, Harold Holzer and Ron C. White, on their opinions of Mary Lincoln. Both authors commented on their admiration for Mary and thought she has not gotten her due. In context of Mary's world her footprint leaves a worthy impression.
Mary chose to keep private countless hours spent in Washington hospitals, at times delivering fresh fruits and flowers, often writing letters for the wounded and raising funds to help the troops. She had a front row seat to the ravages of war. She housed soldiers in the East Room, hosted the first African-Americans as guests, supported the Contraband Relief Society to help former slaves in Washington, attended congressional debates, and sponsored Thursday evening receptions and intellectual and entertainment gatherings. Her crisp intelligence, along with an avid interest in public affairs, an engaging personality and extensive participation in the social politics of the White House, brought a new version of a president's wife.
Mary was an American original. Elizabeth Keckley, her African-American White House seamstress and confidante, acknowledged Mary's fickle temperament when she wrote that Mary was "peculiarly constituted." Mary had a nervous temperament, was fiercely protective and could be difficult. She was also quick with a keen wit, well educated, fluent in French, ambitious and outspoken. As Jean Baker noted, "She was no wallflower." But her talents could not flourish while confined to gender boundaries of the 19th Century, an age far from comprehending various emotional constitutions or space and platforms for women who spoke their minds outside the scene of parlor politics.
As a young girl born into a socially prominent Kentucky family in 1818, Mary had been privileged to sit at the family dinner table with leading politicians such as one of the most honored statesmen Henry Clay. Steeped in politics at an early age, Mary became an astute strategist in the contemporary political arena and acted as a behind the scenes adviser to her husband for most of their 23 years of married life. Lincoln often read his speeches to her and had immense trust in her judgment. Mrs. Lincoln not only supported but had an incalculable influence on her husband. Historians generally agree that she fueled his career, acted as his sounding board and played a central advisory role in his political life. In 1860 when Abraham Lincoln learned the presidential election results in the Springfield telegraph office, he ran home, crying, "Mary, Mary, we are elected."
Once elected, the Lincolns embarked upon the turbulent years the family was to experience at the nerve center of America at war. When the Lincoln family went to Washington in February of 1861 the city was a far cry from the design founders envisioned. Within weeks it would be a war capitol eventually surrounded by 68 quickly constructed forts. Just 100 miles from the center of Confederate power, Washington could not be deemed secure. Under scrutiny themselves, the Lincolns had to navigate the unfavorable environment. Political veterans scorned the Lincolns as "westerners" and Mr. Lincoln was seen by Washington upper crust as the "backwoods president." Mrs. Lincoln also stepped into the enmity of the social world of secessionist ladies of the capital city who snubbed her as a coarse Yankee, an image she set out to counter.
Finding the 31 room executive mansion severely deteriorated due to negligence of Lincoln's predecessors, Mrs. Lincoln took on the job to refurbish the president's house. Her vision was to see the residence the Lincolns embraced as the "People's House" emerge as a respected symbol of national unity. Mary soon traveled to New York and shopped--for china, silver, wallpaper, fabrics and furniture. With the lavish and high-priced makeover completed in October 1861, Mrs. Lincoln conceived splendid galas for Washington circles to create some relief from the trials of war. The political soirees, stylish gowns and over-extended spending, compounded by her Confederate Todd relatives visiting the White House, were fodder for constant gossip. As the first President's wife in the telegraph era, her every move was scrutinized paparazzi style, by what she called the "vampyre press."
Mary balanced her social role with her concern for the welfare of President Lincoln. She worked to steady the President and divert his anxiety by making time for carriage rides and inviting his Illinois friends to breakfast to see that her husband ate and socialized. Her intellectual and moral support helped Lincoln cope with war anxieties and his predisposition to melancholy. Recent biographer Catherine Clinton observed that Mary gave her husband unconditional love and the space and support he needed to achieve his goals.
An earlier biographer Ruth Painter Randall has pointed out that intense affection was one of Mary's strongest characteristics, and her maternal instinct was "the very essence of her being." Mary embraced her role as the mother of four boys, and she grieved in despair when three of her sons were buried. Eleven-year-old Willie, their second deceased son, died at the White House in February 1862. In addition, several of her half-brothers were killed during the war. Tragic loss, beginning with the death of her mother when Mary was just 7 years of age, marks Mary's history. At age 47 Mary was cast into widowhood when her husband was assassinated. The president and Mary were holding hands when the end came at Ford's Theater. The shock shattered Mrs. Lincoln, who lived another 17 years.
Mary Todd had attended her first Springfield cotillion in 1839, and there she first met Abraham Lincoln. Her reaction to seeing Lincoln is recorded by Mary's niece, Katherine Helm--"Who is that man?" Historian Catherine Clinton has placed Mary in an interesting context by recognizing that perhaps her greatest legacy is that she was first to see beyond Lincoln's awkward and quirky edges. Mary believed in his potential and in 1842 married the man with whom she fell in love. It was a risk, against her family's wishes, and not the choice a woman of her position would typically have made. She literally moved from a life of means to an 8-by-14-foot room at the Globe Tavern boardinghouse in Springfield, filled only with promise. Her leap of faith, says Clinton, was in becoming Mrs. Abraham Lincoln. It became her legacy.
Iris Nelson is reference librarian and archivist at Quincy Public Library, a civic volunteer, and member of the Lincoln-Douglas Debate Interpretive Center Advisory Board and other historical organizations. She is a local historian and author.
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Clinton, Catherine. Mrs. Lincoln: A Life. New York: Harper, 2009.
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